The Perils of Falling for Your Matchmaker

I just took the wedding band off,” Carly Spindel said nonchalantly, when we met at a Midtown café on a recent afternoon. “But in business meetings,” she added, having just come from work, “I always wear one.Amy Laurent PHOTO: Yvonne Albinowski/For New York Observer

As a professional matchmaker, Ms. Spindel, who is decidedly unwedded, spends the majority of her waking hours wading through the gritty details of desire. On telephone calls with potential clients and daily simulated dates throughout the city, countless men, and some women, reveal to her their most deep-seated and peculiar relationship needs in the way a patient might divulge his or her unfiltered feelings to a psychotherapist.

There was, Ms. Spindel recounted in a manner somewhat clinical, the client who asked for a blonde, blue-eyed version of Kim Kardashian, “but a size zero.” (Who wouldn’t?) There was the guy who wanted someone “sexy like Angelina Jolie, but also sultry like Mila Kunis,” with a size-26 waist and breasts that would fill a D cup. (Your standard woman.) And don’t forget the man who requested an African-American professor from Harvard who looked like Halle Berry. (Don’t they all?) Click here to read full article ..

About Julie

Julie Ferman is the Founder of Julie Ferman Associates. As a personal matchmaker, dating coach, media personality, professional speaker, dating industry consultant and events producer, her mission is to dignify and simplify the love search process for selective, relationship-minded professionals. Julie Ferman Associates provides personal matchmaking services and a full menu of dating coaching services to single men and women throughout the U.S. and Canada.

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