Finding love at any age is possible, as long as you keep this in mind…
As women age, it’s natural and increasingly “normal” for us to find interest in dating men who are, both, our contemporaries and younger than ourselves.
Why? Because women outlive men by an average of seven years, not to mention, we stay healthy and vital longer than they do (as a general rule). Take a look at any nursing home or senior singles gathering and the reality is clearly evident — men often fall apart and just plain die off quicker than we do.
Yet we have this disconnect, as in our American culture, men grow up with the notion that it’s perfectly fine and even customary to date younger women; however, the same standard doesn’t apply to women. This model makes all kinds of sense for those who are dating in the 20’s, 30’s and 40’s — the folks who are looking for life-long love, including kiddos. However, our modern day single population is aging more so, with every year that passes.
Energetically, as we age in today’s modern culture, it often feels more natural and appropriate for us mingle with younger people, as older men tend to appear “too old” in body, mind, and spirit.
There are exceptions — just as YOU may, perchance, be the exception — someone who looks, acts, and feels like a younger person. There are men out there who are “phenoms” too. So if you don’t enjoy being put into a box, based on your age, it’s really important that you don’t make the same mistake of putting a man in a box based on those very credentials.
Lead by example, by considering the person as a dating prospect, not his age. If you want men to stop judging you based on that criteria, then practice doing the same when considering men out there in the world. In other words, don’t be a hypocritical ageist!
Here’s a healthy way to approach the age issue, as a grown woman (45+, who’s not interested in having children) … Read more …
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