Knowing What Makes You Happy – it’s a Gift

Whether you’re flying solo or coupled up in partnership, one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself and the people in your life is to know what it is that makes you happy.

Easter Sunday Roses 2

As we learned from Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages, each of us is unique in the ways we like to give and receive love.

For me to wait around for a compliment or a shiny new piece of jewelry  from hubby, Gil, would surely end in disappointment, as 25 years of marriage to this man has shown me that store bought gifts and verbal praise are not his languages of love. He’s an acts of service guy, and so his gift to me this past year was to expand our rose garden so that no matter where I sit on our property, I will be greeted with yellows, pinks, purples and reds that whisper “I love you” in ways his words may never express. Fortunately, I respond really well to acts of service, and these sweet gestures of his make me happy. Knowing that and communicating that to my husband with sincere appreciation serves to fan that flame, and then…magically… more and more acts of sweetness come my way.

Spending quality time together, physical touch and words of affirmation are ways that Gil hears “I love you.” And so today, on Easter Sunday, what I know will be welcomed and appreciated by my guy is spending this beautiful day together, making the table special for our dinner tonight, taking photos of the sun drenched rose bushes, and finding a moment for physical frolic – that will make the day really special for him.

What makes you happy? Is it physical touch, kind words, a thoughtful gesture, special time spent together, or a material gift? And how do you most enjoy showing your love? Enjoy the exploration of these questions, as knowing ourselves (and the keys to our hearts) is a gift that we bring with us to each of the special people in our lives.

About Julie

Julie Ferman is the Founder of Julie Ferman Associates. As a personal matchmaker, dating coach, media personality, professional speaker, dating industry consultant and events producer, her mission is to dignify and simplify the love search process for selective, relationship-minded professionals. Julie Ferman Associates provides personal matchmaking services and a full menu of dating coaching services to single men and women throughout the U.S. and Canada.

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